I Don’t Care Anymore

by Melody Jean

Contemporary Seeker I don't Care AnymoreI happened upon Phil Collins’ song I Don’t Care Anymore and it reminded me of a time when I was struggling between doing what I thought was morally right, or perhaps better said, what I thought I had to do, and that which I wanted to do.

It was a toss-up whether to let someone go, or allow them to remain a part of my life.

Unspiritual or Smart?

So I did what I often do when I’m struggling with a quandary like this. I asked my dad if letting this person go indicated that I was “unspiritual.”

A part of me thought that no matter the circumstance, we’re supposed to tirelessly provide advice and support for those who need it.

Even if time and again they disregard what we say and continue to make the same mistakes endlessly.

Smart I’d Say!

His answer was quite simple and I’ll paraphrase. In a nutshell he said that I don’t have to keep troublesome people in my life. It’s okay to let them go.

The reason? I likely tried to help the best that I knew how for a lengthy period of time. Yet, for whatever reason, the person remains unchanged, and struggles.

Some people he explained will continue to repeat the same incident over and over as this is their primary lesson. Until they conquer it, they will not move past it.

He said it’s okay to let them go, especially because I don’t want them to hinder my growth as well.

It’s Not Without Sadness

Often times if someone lets you in to help, you are privy to all of their demons and the details of that which is bogging them down.

If they are are unable to conquer it, you remain a constant reminder of their shortcomings. With that, they find it’s easier to remove you from their life than to deal with their issues.

This comes with an element of sadness.

Run After or Let Go – Choice is Yours

Of course is some ways, if they’re indeed troublesome, it’s easy when they choose to walk away from you.

The only decision to make at that point is whether we decide to run after him or her, or to let them go.

You’re Free

It’s not an easy choice on many occasions, but I’ll offer you this.

We owe it to ourselves to let them go and find a place of solace or acceptance for who they are and what they need. Even if we don’t understand.

While we may still care about the actual person, we don’t have to care anymore in a sense as well. Because we don’t have to try anymore, and as a result, we’re free.

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