We Have to Say Goodbye – A Tribute to Jeff Buckley

by Melody Jean

Say Goodbye Contemporary SeekerSometimes we have to say goodbye. From people and relationships, to unhealthy habits, and even jobs, we must bid farewell.

It disheartening to see those close to me fear letting someone or something go. Even when it’s best. Here, I share my story.

Set Yourself Free

When we say goodbye, especially to those negative elements in our lives we set ourselves free in a sense. We make way for something better, sweeter to come forth.

It’s Not Easy

While it’s not easy most times, it pays to remember that nobody said doing the right thing is easy. We need to trust in ourselves and the higher Will. If we follow our instinct when something doesn’t feel, or seem right, and grasp for that deep place within and let go; we’re always much better for it in the end.

My Recent Goodbyes

In the last four years I’ve said goodbye to many things for a myriad of reasons – friends, boyfriends, jobs, cities, homes, and much more. The list really is endless.

I can’t recall any of them being easy. Each time, though, I turned to two things that always help me through rough patches: my belief in something greater and music.

Yes, music. It always helps to pull me through. I find solace in the lyrics and tempo. They hug, comfort and reassure me in a way.

Last Goodbye

An ex-boyfriend introduced me to Jeff Buckley. He is among those great musicians who passed away too soon. Yet, before he died through a tragic accident, he ensured that we would remain blessed with his gift. He left his music behind.

His song Last Goodbye is one of my favorites; especially when I need to do that very thing – say goodbye. A particular line is eerily applicable to almost all goodbyes.

“Just hear this and then I’ll go, you gave me more to live for, more than you’ll ever know.” 

Where do I find the applicability here?

The Gratitude in Goodbye

We learn something from everything that we leave behind whether bad or good. Even if what we learn is what we don’t want. In knowing this, in a sense we have much more to live for after a goodbye. It’s almost a sense of relief coupled with gratitude.

Gratitude for what we learned from that person or experience. Gratitude that we had the gumption to leave. Gratitude for the chance for something better to emerge. Gratitude that we didn’t fear saying goodbye. Gratitude for that person or experience for teaching us what we needed to learn.

I share the lyrics to Buckley’s Last Goodbye below and you can listen to this incredible song here. May you always find the strength to say goodbye.

Last Goodbye

This is our last goodbye
I hate to feel the love between us die
But it’s over
Just hear this and then I’ll go
You gave me more to live for
More than you’ll ever know
This is our last embrace
Must I dream and always see your face?
Why can’t we overcome this wall?
Baby, maybe its just because you didn’t know you at all
Kiss me, please kiss me
But kiss me out of desire, babe, not consolation
Oh, you know it makes me so angry
‘Cause I know that in time, I’ll only make you cry
This is our last goodbye
Did you say, “No, this can’t happen to me”
Did you rush to the phone to call
Was there a voice unkind in the back of your mind
Saying maybe you didn’t know him at all
You didn’t know him at all, oh oh, ya didn’t know
Well, the bells out in the church tower chime
Burning clues into this heart of mine
Thinking so hard on her soft eyes
And the memories, offer signs that it’s over … over

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

George

Another great article !
Yes the music does help and it’s
good even any time. Your Dad played
Some great tunes for me many years
ago – there’s one particular that I still
play. It’s one of my very favorites !!
Ask him – I bet he will remember !!

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Melody Jean

I’ll have to check in with him on that — I always like listening to my dad’s choice of music both figuratively and literally of course 🙂 As always, thanks for your note George!

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Stewart

Yes I remember that day and the circumstances; we had fun and I will leave it up to the reader to figure out what we were doing. Cannot remember the specific song? Was it by Tim Buckley, the Beatles or Jimmy Hendrix . . .

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Melody Jean

It’s clear where I get my taste in music from. Thanks Dad (a.k.a. Stewart)! 🙂

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